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In my work, I find it essential to work with people struggling with narcissism to learn to relax, be creative, and have fun without having to be extraordinary or achieve. People who have been...

An appreciation of our common humanity is at the heart of compassion. Genuine compassion is not a great healer condescending to help the poor and needy. Nobody appreciates that kind of pity....

The arts, in the form of music, literature and poetry, are often gentle companions with us as we navigate challenging relationships. These lyrics are from a song called "My House" by Tim Minchin...

When you first meet someone with narcissistic personality disorder, you might meet someone who is charming, confident, charismatic and impressive. It is often said that eventually, this "mask"...

We often think of anger as being a “negative” emotion. Something to be managed, controlled and ultimately, reduced to the point it is no longer felt.

As a psychologist and a human...

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One of the most helpful concepts applied to how people make sense of abusive relationships is cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the discomfort we...

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Revenge fantasies are normal and understandable after we experience an injustice. They can sometimes serve a function of allowing us to feel...

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Does it seem like everyone's horrible ex partner might be a narcissist all of a sudden? Is armchair diagnosing narcissism hurting our...

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We need to talk about narcissism. I am concerned that a lot of the discourse on social media about narcissism is overly simplistic and black and white...

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Some people have been led to believe that 'no contact' or 'grey rock'  are the only ways to cope with a relationship...