THE BLOG

Spiritual Abuse Sep 09, 2024

When spirituality is misused, it’s not uncommon to hear statements like:

  • “It’s not spiritual to be so upset—you need to work on being less attached…”
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Taking Responsibility for Healing from Abusive Relationships Jul 13, 2024

 

Who is responsible for the impact of someone else's abusive behaviour on you?

This is a complex question that many grapple with, and it was recently raised in the comments section of my...

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Where does your fear of abandonment come from? Jun 18, 2024

Do you often find yourself fearing the loss of your partner or loved ones? You're not alone. Let's explore where this fear comes from and how it manifests in our lives.

What It Looks Like:

  • Maybe...
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Learn to trust again Nov 10, 2023

If you have experienced abuse, betrayal or persistently hurtful behaviour in your relationships, it is understandable that you might develop a strong sense of other people as untrustworthy and...

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Radical acceptance of offensive behaviour Oct 30, 2023

 

One of the biggest misunderstandings I see of the concept of "radical acceptance" is that it means accepting abusive situations or situations in which we are getting hurt. 


Radical...

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Radical Acceptance: Welcoming Painful Emotions Oct 26, 2023

 

I recently interviewed John from the YouTube channel, PDQuestions, about his experiences after being diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

One of the things we talked about was...

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Do "narcissists" deliberately hurt those closest to them? Apr 19, 2023

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic traits often hurt those closest to them and they are often characterised as evil, demonic, manipulative and predatory.

But is this...
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Reactive vrs planned break ups and one way to reduce relationship anxiety Apr 15, 2023

In some relationships, couples fall into a pattern of breaking up, making up and breaking up again. Reactive break-ups typically occur in response to arguments or conflict when partners are...

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Loving the enemy Apr 07, 2023

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are often intensely self-critical and impatient, even angry, at their own flaws and vulnerabilities, seeing them as the enemies to success, greatness...

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Fighting "narcissists"? Mar 29, 2023
  
 
Those of us who seek to understand and identify narcissism in others may find ourselves dehumanising, othering, ignoring grey areas and sacrificing peoples' humanity and the...
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Condemnation vrs acceptance Mar 22, 2023

None of us are simple, perfect creatures of light. We all have tricky parts of our personalities and patterns of behaviour that do not serve us. Many of us would prefer to push down, deny and...

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