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The power of acceptance in relationships Mar 19, 2023
 
There's a temptation in relationships to seek partners or friends that fill unmet needs from past experiences. We can do the same to ourselves - moulding, twisting and striving to be the...
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Alternatives to No Contact Mar 12, 2023

On recognising narcissism in a loved one, I meet many people who feel despairing as they have the impression from social media that the only way to cope with this situation is to cut off contact...
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Narcissist Hunters Mar 08, 2023

When journalist, Jon Ronson, got interested in psychopathy he trained in the 'Psychopathy Checklist' to recognise and identify psychopaths. He entertainingly discusses his experiences in his...
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Does self-compassion make a narcissistic person lose their edge? drruthann narcissism narcissist psychologist schema therapy self compassion self compassion for narcissism self compassion for narcissists therapist Mar 06, 2023

Pathological narcissism can be thought of as a means to regulate self-esteem. A narcissistic person may swing from feeling on top of the world, thinking they are superior to others, to the pits of...

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Fear of vulnerability Mar 03, 2023

Working with people who struggle with narcissism can feel like we are living in a world that demands strength and invulnerability above all else. We are taught from a young age to remain stoic...

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How to support a loved one in an abusive relationship Mar 01, 2023

It can be heartbreaking to witness a loved one going through this, and often there is a drive to advise them to get out of the relationship or to leave. If they have ended such a relationship, the...

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From relational war to relational peace Feb 27, 2023
You may build up armour to survive when you have been through painful, abusive or consistently neglectful relationships. Perhaps you have learned to shut down and shut off. Maybe you have learned...
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How self-compassion supports self-responsibility Feb 22, 2023

We all make mistakes. We hurt ourselves, or we hurt someone else – and sometimes, we'll even do both. Such mistakes can often provoke our inner critic to scold or condemn us into changing....

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Self-acceptance is the key to change Feb 22, 2023

None of us are simple, perfect creatures of light. We all have tricky parts of our personalities and patterns of behaviour that do not serve us. Many of us would prefer to push down, deny and...

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The problem with labels Feb 20, 2023
  
 
Narcissist? Empath? Healthy? Toxic?
 
We have all been labelled in some way or another at some point in our lives. But the truth is that each one of us has a unique...
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Make Love of Yourself Perfect Feb 17, 2023

The full quotation from Nisargadatta Maharaj is:
 
You are perfect, only you don’t know it.
Learn to know yourself and you will discover wonders.
All you need is already within...
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How do you motivate yourself? Feb 15, 2023

What effect would it have on you if you had a coach who shouted at you, threatened you and punished you in an attempt to make you do better?
 
Would you hire such a coach? Probably not!...
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