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We often think of anger as being a “negative” emotion. Something to be managed, controlled and ultimately, reduced to the point it is no longer felt.

As a psychologist and a human being, this has neve...

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One of the most helpful concepts applied to how people make sense of abusive relationships is cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the discomfort we f...

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Revenge fantasies are normal and understandable after we experience an injustice. They can sometimes serve a function of allowing us to feel strong...

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Does it seem like everyone's horrible ex partner might be a narcissist all of a sudden? Is armchair diagnosing narcissism hurting our relationships?

I...

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We need to talk about narcissism. I am concerned that a lot of the discourse on social media about narcissism is overly simplistic and black and white ...

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Some people have been led to believe that 'no contact' or 'grey rock'  are the only ways to cope with a relationship with a narcissistic ...

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Most people who have been through an abusive relationship with a narcissistic person describe being 'love bombed'. This includes idealisation, big gestu...

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The period of time after leaving an abusive relationship is a highly vulnerable one and a key opportunity...